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On why I don’t get to London often enough. Fish and chips on Notting Hill. Noodles and dumplings steaming in Chinatown. And the correct Brasier.
My writing for women reclaiming their natural power.
For women reclaiming power and somatic leadership.
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I am harbour
She didn’t come to visit. She came to nap. She lay down because my house holds. I am harbour.
On Nitpicking
Nitpicking happens in the moment. Without thought. Without impact assessment. Without malice.
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The mother with tattoos
At Matosinhos beach I saw a mother, poised and tattooed like scripture. Her thong flashed. She was the me I stopped becoming.
On the mermaid and the idiots who feared her
Denmark removes a mermaid statue for being “pornographic.” Lai Yin exposes how critics and priests project shame onto women’s bodies while the statue stands still.
How I handle him after climax.
I don’t bring him to orgasm. That’s his work. My work begins after his climax. I place him, I imprint him, I seal the signal.
On Pegging: Command and control
When plugging fails, pegging restores. Penetration on her terms. Correction by command. Clarity through gravity.
Does placement work? (And what semen-on-skin actually does)
Semen on skin is not about arousal or subservience. It’s about placement. Biological, psychological, and relational. And yes; it works. But not because of a mystical belief.
On plugging: Use cases
Plugging is not kink. It’s correction. Containment. Calibration. A system for placing him. When words don’t, and presence must.
Making him come for you
You do not have to chase, please, or perform to hold power in your relationship. You claim it by standing in it, and he orbits that.
Why there’s no halfway
If I don’t govern, he has to. And when he governs, I orbit him. My freedom lives in my command. I govern what is mine. He orbits me.
On plugging: Integration and proof
How placement becomes protocol. From first instruction to silent integration. How plugging moves from ritual to rhythm, without a word.
When I don’t tame him
When I don’t tether him. When I just want to be wrecked.
The structure for fulfilment: Where female power lands and leads.
Discover the core architecture behind Lai Yin. She says when, how, where. He follows, anchors, and rises to power her.