On Miscarriage
By the time I had written the thank-you cards to our wedding guests, I was pregnant. Then my womb was empty again.
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Andalusia
He flew to Europe to pick me up. I had already crossed it alone. From Paris to Portugal, a month apart collapsed the space between us again.
Some women are sent
Some women aren’t just born. They’re summoned across bloodlines and time to complete what another woman began.
Paris
I got a Eurorail ticket to leave the man who would become my husband now. He flew me to Europe, bought me walking boots, put me on the train. Twenty years and three daughters later, I still return.
On menstruation and the birds and the bees
Before they could walk, they already knew what blood meant. Because we never hid it. We never locked the door.
A woman can love her man and his penis without being dominated by him and his sex drive.
Patriarchy trains women to serve men’s arousal. In mammal nature, males supply semen when the female needs it. Females allow and receive.
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People are performing for a performer who is dead.
Grief isn’t performance. It’s breath that doesn’t fill. A reflection on Diane Keaton, loss, and saying it while they’re still alive.
My baby turned 16 today.
Some nights you don’t have to hold it all. Some nights you’re simply held.
He never listens, but he always sees
Lessons from a wife who forgot she was seen.
The biology of placement
Plain language on oxytocin prolactin and dopamine in placement. How timing and repetition at release create calm in your body and presence in him.