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Berlin

On hospitality, family, fundraising, and sex before breakfast.

By She Holds

/ 11 Jan 2026

Berlin

Sydney

On Felix, sex, motherhood, and twenty years of asking who leads.

By She Holds

/ 4 Jan 2026

Sydney

On patriarchy

Patriarchy is incompatible with biology

By She Holds

/ 28 Dec 2025

On patriarchy

On roundabouts

On school mornings, school runs and needing to breathe again.

By She Holds

/ 14 Dec 2025

On roundabouts

I map him with my mouth

On knowing what enters my body.

By She Holds

/ 7 Dec 2025

I map him with my mouth

On marriage

Marriage is a really, really bad idea. Separation has been in the air we breathe since the beginning.

By She Holds

/ 1 Dec 2025

On marriage

On childbirth

I had just given birth when her little sister followed.

By She Holds

/ 30 Nov 2025

On childbirth

On c-section

Years after our daughters were born, I was still chasing a son. Conception wasn’t instant like it was with our daughters.

By She Holds

/ 24 Nov 2025

On c-section

Why would a man want to be placed?

A man doesn’t resist direction. He recognises it as freedom and devotion. The highest form of power.

By She Holds

/ 23 Nov 2025

Why would a man want to be placed?

On phở

On broth and heat, raw meat and raw nerves.

By She Holds

/ 19 Nov 2025

On phở

Structure for embodied power

How a woman becomes the gravitational centre of her world and places her man, and her family, her house, her community in orbit around her.

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