On menstruation and the birds and the bees
Before they could walk, they already knew what blood meant. Because we never hid it. We never locked the door.
Sovereignty
Sovereignty is the outcome of placement as practice. It is a state of ease and grace — power without force. It is regulation and instruction through signal. When you move through the world, people feel you before you speak. Rooms shift. Paths open. You embody leadership. Others align to your signal.
Latest
My baby turned 16 today.
Some nights you don’t have to hold it all. Some nights you’re simply held.
He never listens, but he always sees
Lessons from a wife who forgot she was seen.
The bed is not the field
Sovereignty doesn’t live in the bed. It moves with the woman who holds the space.
The sword they carry
I didn’t just birth daughters. I birthed flames. They won’t leave my house empty-handed. They will leave carrying the sword I placed.
Melbourne
My body rewires through his restraint. From hyper-vigilance to sovereignty, biology restores what trauma stole.
Women at the beach. What nature already knows.
Before I birthed my daughters, bikinis they were for covering. Today I see them wearing them to be naked in sunlight.
The mother with tattoos
At Matosinhos beach I saw a mother, poised and tattooed like scripture. Her thong flashed. She was the me I stopped becoming.
On the mermaid and the idiots who feared her
Denmark removes a mermaid statue for being “pornographic.” Lai Yin exposes how critics and priests project shame onto women’s bodies while the statue stands still.
When I don’t tame him
When I don’t tether him. When I just want to be wrecked.
Daily rituals for aging with power
These five daily rituals restore dignity, sensuality, and presence to the process of aging. Power doesn’t fade.
A young woman’s guide to ease and grace part one.
Part one of a three-part series on placement. This post gives the lived context and the standard that makes everything work.